Grief has more energy than Hopeless Shameful Despair. As you can see, people in Grief have enough energy to cry. They recognize their loss and they feel the pain of their Grief. Some people get a lot of relief from a good cry.
Here you still have some hope for the future, even though you are afraid to face it.
This vibe field sees sadness everywhere. Here we find habitual losers and chronic gamblers. There is constant loss and depression. Often there is bereavement, mourning, and remorse. Regret and despondency prevail.
In feeling sadness, we may also feel more connected to other people. Some people make deep connections to others during times of grief. Paradoxically, great loss and deep connections may coincide.
The emotions of grief include sadness, sorrow, loss, mourning, bereavement, remorse, despondency, and regret.
Now we are in grief and you know what that means, we sit and cry.
There is sadness everywhere. I feel like I have lost everything. There is no love at all. Am I stuck in this tragedy feeling down all the time?
On the yin side of grief, you can get overwhelmed by sadness.
On the yang side, you may leap up to anger.
Below this vibe field is hopelessness, shame, and despair. We can see the danger in the slide downward into apathy. How can we keep from falling into the pit of further darkness? Instead of facing downward, let’s turn over and lie on our backs. Let’s just lie here on the bottom for a while. We don’t feel any need to change the field we are in right now. Why? Because while on our backs, in the bottom of this cup, everything we see now is looking up.
I regret being here. Come, let’s get to a higher vibe.
Quotes and Memes
Oh, great fire of love, fan your flames. Surround and warm our cold hearts of grief.
“I’ve been down so low, bottom looked like up” ~ BS&T “Hi De Ho”
Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place. ~ Rumi
I saw grief drinking a cup of sorrow and called out, “It tastes sweet, does it not?” “You’ve caught me”, grief answered, “and you’ve ruined my business. How can I sell sorrow when you know it’s a blessing?” ~ Rumi
You always do the best you know how in that moment. Release your regret with this meme: “If you coulda, then you woulda.”
Raise the Vibe
The first step is to make certain that you maintain grief for as long as it is needed, making sure you do not lose hope.
At some point, you will know that it is time to move on. The best way to start is to feel gratitude for the time you had with what was lost. The vibe of gratitude is powerful enough to dissolve this field of grief.
Why can’t I leave this field? To escape this field, I have to look at the future and when I look at the future, I feel afraid.
If you feel that you have been living in this field long enough and want to rise above it, make a commitment to face your fears.
If we feel blame for our loss, we can take this approach. To leave grief behind, we have to face the reality of our situation before us and it is grim. How will we ever dig ourselves out of this hole? We cower in fear. The feelings are overwhelming. But we don’t want to fall back into the wasteland, we have to keep moving upward. To move beyond fear, we climb the steps from one vibe field to the next. We know there is something that will feel better than fear and we want it! The more we think about what’s out there, the more we want it. Then we can step up to say we “have to have it”. But how do we get it? We don’t know and that just makes us angry! We get a surge of energy and we start looking around to figure out what can we do about it? We hate where we were and we hate the people we blame it on. That gives us the energy to step up to the next vibe and the next.
Another approach to moving upward out of grief is to face fear directly. Fear is actually easy to overcome and you can find ways to do it in the Fear Vibe. In my own experience, I had not ever deliberately used fear to move upward out of grief. But I went ahead and gave it a shot. When I focused on fear, a release came almost immediately and the grief started running itself out.