Fearful Insecure Anxious

Fear runs much of the world. Fear has much more power than the lower vibe field of grief. You need to face fear to rise above the depression of grief. To avoid falling back into grief, you need to find something in your future that you want. The higher vibe field of desire pulls you upward and further away from grief.

You can be in the vibe field of fear for many reasons and in many ways. All of these reasons are about the future. Intense fear of the immediate future can lead to panic.

Ongoing fear can lead to anxiety. With anxiety you are nervous, uneasy, concerned, distressed, and in doubt or dread. 

Fear is important. It has assured the survival of all life. Consider even bacteria. Each single-cell microbe has antennae that sense the physical environment around it. It knows what is good to consume. Its fear response knows what to avoid.

But fear is uncomfortable and the body chemistry that goes with it is not healthy for us. Breathing becomes shallow, blood vessels constrict, and heart rate rises.

There is a lack of trust in this field. Fear has no reason. That’s why it’s so frightening.

Fear will make us devalue the truth and tell lies to avoid trouble. There is no happiness in this vibe. You have very little power in this field compared to the fields above.

Self-observation reveals the qualities of the vibe field around us. Your body is physically withdrawing in order to appear smaller. You may have the jitters. Your mind is uneasy or distressed.

Life is frightening in this vibe field. If there is a supreme being, it is punishing.

Words associated with this vibe field include: angst, anxiety, disgust, fright, horror, insecurity, panic, repugnance, terror, revulsion, and withdrawal.

An overly strong fear response is called a phobia. A phobia is more difficult to release because it is tightly intertwined with your physiology.

Emotional insecurity is also part of this vibe field. There is a lack of confidence and you are hesitant to take action. Insecurity results in manipulation, jealousy, totalitarianism, and inhibition.

In addition to fear, this vibe includes the emotion of disgust. Disgust can be a response to physical, moral, or social perceptions. Self-disgust can lead downward to shame and the vibe field of hopelessness.

The world looks hazardous and threatening. How do you know that you are resonating in the field of fear, anxiety, and insecurity? You want to hide. It’s your only hope for safety. Make yourself as small and invisible as possible. Don’t move.

The world is full of dangers and traps. My belly hurts. I feel anxious. I am frightened all the time. My breathing is shallow and my heart rate is elevated. I am thinking that if I do anything, I will get punished for it.

Looking inside and feeling the fear that is drawing me inward and making me smaller, my self-talk says things like, “don’t stick your neck out”, “keep quiet”, “keep your opinions to yourself”.

Withdrawal or cocooning is the yin side of fear. The yang side includes protective actions. Flight would have the most energy.

Quotes and Memes

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~ Nelson Mandela

“Fear is non-acceptance of uncertainty. If we accept that uncertainty, it becomes an adventure!” ~ Rumi

“Although the road is never ending, take a step and keep walking , do not look fearfully into the distance.” ~ Rumi

“On this path let the heart be your guide for your body is hesitant and full of fear.” ~ Rumi

I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear. ~ Rosa Parks

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson

“The best way to overcome the fear of death is to make your interests gradually wider and more impersonal, until bit by bit the walls of the ego recede, and your life becomes increasingly merged in the universal life. An individual human existence should be like a river: small at first, narrowly contained within its banks, and rushing passionately past rocks and over waterfalls. Gradually the river grows wider, the banks recede, the waters flow more quietly, and in the end, without any visible break, they become merged in the sea, and painlessly lose their individual being. The man who, in old age, can see his life in this way, will not suffer from the fear of death, since the things he cares for will continue.” ~ “How to Grow Old” in Portraits From Memory and Other Essays, Bertrand Russell.

What is the irrational fear of giants called? Feefiphobia

Raise the Vibe

Even though you think the future is unavoidable and uncontrollable, you can get over fear relatively easily.

Fear is not the same as fright. Fright is a process. Fright is the initial sudden response you have when you feel attacked and it doesn’t last. Fear develops over time and fear is optional. You can release it.

Say Whee! Instead of Whoa! When my kids were young, they were afraid of the swings on the playground. I gradually pushed them higher and higher on the swings until they got scared and said “Whoa!”. I asked them to try saying “Whee!” instead of “Whoa!”. Pretty soon, they were yelling “Higher! Push me higher!” Why does this work so well? When you say, “Whee!”, you rise to the vibe field of courage, truth, and excitement. Because the vibes there are a much higher frequency than fear, the fear dissolves.

Then What. The fear of death is the basis of all fears. It underlies every fear. This technique will always lead you to your fear of death. All you do is continually question your fear with, “And then what?” For example, you fear losing your job. Ask, “So you lose your job, then what?” You say, “I’ll be homeless.” Ask, “So you become homeless, then what?” You say, “I could starve to death.” Once you have reached this point of realizing that your present fear is actually your fear of death, then you can use one of these other techniques to release the fear of death.

Surrendering Fear. When you get to the fear of death, you can dissolve it by focusing on the bodily feelings. Your stomach is usually the point of focus. Don’t call your feelings fear. Stop calling your fear anything. You’re not experiencing fear, that’s a label. Don’t label it. You experience a particular set of symptoms. Let go of resisting the symptoms. For example, notice how tight your belly is. It’s tight because you are resisting the feelings. Allow your belly to feel whatever it needs to feel in the moment. If you completely let go of resisting the symptoms, the symptoms will go away and so will what you call fear.

Near Death Experience. Once you lose your fear of death, nothing can really get to you anymore. That’s why people who have had death experiences lose their fear of death. It’s called a near death experience even when the body actually dies but then returns to life. The body’s response to an attack may still initially provoke a fear response in the body, but the mind, remembering the death experience, will eventually convince the body to let go of the fear response.

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  1. The thing I fear most is not living up to my potential – Charlie Brown.

    I feel very blessed to have no real fears. However, I am not fearless. I don’t look forward to death but it is inevitable. I want to enjoy everyday with something productive and be nice to everyone. Yes, life is good.

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